Just as a quick question for those of you that are carers or
friends of the traveller who is about to embark on this journey. Please
remember it is their journey and not yours.
As a bystander one of the hardest things to remember is that
this is not your journey. You are there to support and nurture but not to make
the final decisions.
Don't make their decisions for them!!!! Tell them about what
you have learnt and let them decide what to do about it! I know you love this
person and want what is best for them. That’s great, but a person with cancer
has a right to know their options and make their own decisions. It is their
life at stake; let them make the hard choices.
If the person you care about wants to take a line of
treatment that you don't agree with or you think another option would have a
better result, you can only suggest it to them. They have already lost a degree
of control when they are diagnosed; they need to follow what is true and right
for them.
Don't try to guilt, bully or cajole him/her into anything
that they don't or can't believe in. We all have our own belief systems and we
each must choose our own path we wish to travel.
It can be heart breaking at times, especially if their
choice doesn't resonate with your beliefs, but ultimately you must remember it
is their life and their choice.
